Wow! What a girl Sana is. How she carried her love like a flag through troubles and tribulations and married her fiancé despite the fact that he encountered a terrible accident and lost both his arms and a leg. People are amazed and astounded and all applause. But the question is, how many of us would do even a ten percent of this? How many of us would allow our children to make such a decision? Had Sana been my friend and rushed to my home crashing with sorrow and horror and had narrated to me the onslaught of a terrible calamity of her life, what would I have said to her as a friend? For sure I would have said that, ‘Sana, Dawood is a nice person. I am sure you both love each other very much, but be practical. He is a cripple now. He would be no good to you as a husband. He would just be a liability. He cannot even earn for you now, rather you would have to earn for him and take care of him and take the responsibility of the whole household … ’ and then sing for her … It must have been love, but its over now …
Few of us have the character to answer in positivity to the lyrics of Michael Jackson,
In my troubles … and my tribulations … will you still care … will you be there ?
For sure Sana is. Kudos to her! A few people are a little worried that Dawood and Sana are Christians because she was heard saying in one of her interviews the word Khudawand which is the Christian version of Khuda meaning God in Pakistan. Does it matter? The deed she has done is an inspiration to all of us Muslims, Christians, Jews, Hindus … to all mankind. For Allah Almighty says in the Quran,
“Another of His signs is that He created your soul mates for you so that you might be at peace with them, and has put love and compassion between you two. Verily there are signs in this for those who think.”
[The Holy Quran | Surah Ar-Room | Verse 21]
So think! The prime purpose of marriage is peace, love and compassion, while our marriage criteria for marriage selection is a good salary, a good house and a good job. If we reverse it for the females, the criteria is beauty, housework and umm … given that the inflation is going high and we have advanced to higher levels of materialism … a good job for the girl as well. There! That’s a nice, neat, meaty marriage package. The moment money leaves a marriage, the marriage starts shaking on its foundations.
Same is the case with teachers. Yes, sorry for swerving the topic so suddenly and catching you off guard but the same materialism has penetrated education, the noblest of professions. Mother Aisha RA is reported to have said that two of the noblest of professions of the world are medical care and education. But you will see today teachers floating in and out of schools following the carrot of salary. If you ask one, ‘Why did you join that university?’ You will hardly find the answer, ‘Because I am inspired by their vision…’ But then the question is, do the universities today have a vision or they also have ventured to open the university as a ‘business’? Hearing the word business reminds me of my childhood days when parents used to be advising their children to become a doctor or an engineer. Mind you, they would not ask them ‘What do you aspire to be?’ but instruct them to become a doctor or an engineer because, they would say with raised eyebrows, doctors and engineers make very good salaries. That is why, when the salaries remain not so good, the doctors go on strike, while the patients are lying on stretchers, helpless. And helpless is the government in front of them because they had to cut down on the health budget to increase free facilities for the ministers who are already getting very handsome salaries.
So what hopeless chance does Dawood Siddiqui stand today in a world where marriages are sought not for love and compassion and character but for salary figures? But, the fact of the matter becomes that Dawood stands a very handsome man today, because he is still handsome in the eyes of Sana. And the richest and the most powerful, for having such a loving, loyal and brave girl standing next to him. Uh…oh, I have a very interesting question. What would Dawood have done if Sana had suffered the same fate? The smile on Dawood’s face is enigmatic, where Sana is feeding him with her own hands. Would Dawood have looked at her with the same love, if she had gotten crippled? Would Dawood have fed her with his hands? Would Dawood have stood against his family and married Sana anyways? Would people have allowed him to do so? And if Dawood and Sana would have been already married, at worst, his family would have suggested him to divorce her to get rid of her, and at best, lined up other girls for him for a second marriage, to console him from the trauma, which his wife was suffering upfront. In life, when a man and woman need each other all the more, we tear them apart, inside and outside, with our universally accepted and adjusted selfishness.
So where do people like Sana Mushtaq stand in today’s world ? Only in the newspapers !
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